Redefining success and career as a parent with Goli Kalkhoran
Ep. 77 on the All Figured Out Podcast
What happens when you follow the "perfect" career path—only to realize it’s not for you? In this episode of All Figured Out, I sit down with Goli Kalkhoran, a former attorney turned Master Certified Life Coach and host of the Lessons from a Quitter podcast. Goli shares her journey of leaving behind a prestigious legal career to find fulfillment in coaching. We talk about the identity crisis that often comes with career pivots, how mindset work can help navigate major transitions, and redefining success on your own terms. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a career that no longer aligns with your life, this conversation is for you.
In this episode of All Figured Out interviewing Goli we discuss:
The pressure to stay in a "safe" career and how to break free from it.
Managing fear and self-doubt when making a major career pivot.
The power of mindset work in overcoming imposter syndrome and perfectionism.
Redefining success in different life seasons, especially as a parent.
Setting boundaries and managing unrealistic corporate expectations.
Letting Go of the “Shoulds”
Goli grew up in a culture where success was tied to prestige—law school, high-paying jobs, and traditional career paths. But after spending years in the legal field, she realized she was living a life dictated by what she "should" do rather than what she actually wanted. Her advice? Start questioning the shoulds. If you’re feeling stuck, ask yourself: If no one else’s opinion mattered, what would I actually want to do? This shift in perspective is key to stepping into a more fulfilling career and life.
Managing Fear and Identity Shifts
Leaving behind a prestigious career isn’t just about changing jobs—it’s about redefining who you are. Goli talks about how much of her struggle wasn’t logistical but emotional. "I had to work through the fear of what people would think," she shares. If you’re facing a career pivot, expect discomfort. A great starting point? Surround yourself with stories of people who’ve done it. Listen to podcasts (like this one!) and read about others who’ve made big changes—it helps normalize the transition and make it feel possible for you.
Perfectionism is Keeping You Stuck
Many high achievers—especially parents—feel pressure to excel in every area. Goli explains that perfectionism often holds people back from taking action. "We get so caught up in doing things ‘right’ that we don’t move forward at all." Instead of waiting for the perfect plan, take small, imperfect steps. Apply for the job. Launch the business. Have the tough conversation. Progress beats perfection every time.
Redefining Success as a Parent
Success looks different at every stage of life. As a mom, Goli had to reevaluate what mattered most. "I didn’t want to miss my kids’ childhood just to keep up an image of success that wasn’t even making me happy." For parents juggling work and family, she suggests defining success on your own terms rather than society’s expectations. That might mean scaling back at work for a season, or it might mean going all-in on a career pivot—there’s no one-size-fits-all answer.
Setting Boundaries in Demanding Careers
For those who love their jobs but struggle with unrealistic expectations, Goli shares strategies for setting boundaries. "A lot of us add stress to our jobs by trying to be everything to everyone," she says. Instead of responding to emails at all hours or overworking yourself to prove your worth, set clear expectations with your employer and yourself. Remember: work is a transactional relationship. You don’t owe your job your entire life.
Summary
Goli’s journey from lawyer to life coach proves that it’s never too late to pivot. If you’re feeling stuck in a career that no longer aligns with your values, start by questioning the shoulds, managing fear, and redefining success on your terms. Whether you’re navigating a big career shift or simply looking to set healthier boundaries at work, this episode is packed with insights to help you move forward with confidence.
About Andrea Barr, host of All Figured Out
Andrea is a certified career and life coach for parents. Through her coaching, she supports parents in finding better work-life rhythms so they can continue to grow personally and professionally without sacrificing family time.
Connect with Andrea via Instagram here.
